For some kids, ‘tis the season for all the feels. Here’s how you can help.
Supporting Children’s Emotional Well-Being During the Holidays
The holiday season can be a time of magic and joy for children, but it can also bring challenges for those who have experienced loss, grief, or major family changes. Reminders of absent loved ones, shifts in routines, and the pressure to enjoy social events can all contribute to feelings of sadness, anxiety, or isolation. Even familiar traditions may feel overwhelming, adding extra stress to kids already coping with difficult emotions.
1. Acknowledge mixed emotions
When children are dealing with change or loss, it’s natural for them to experience a range of emotions during holiday celebrations. It’s important to validate these feelings and let kids know that it’s okay to feel both joy and sorrow. By normalizing the coexistence of different emotions, children can learn to navigate their feelings in a healthy way.
2. Give kids a heads up
Children thrive when they know what to expect, so keeping them informed about holiday plans can help them feel more prepared and in control. Discussing details like schedules and social interactions can make the season less daunting for kids, especially those dealing with loss or change. Practicing responses to common questions can also boost their confidence in social settings.
3. Honour absent loved ones or changed traditions
Finding ways to acknowledge loss or change can provide comfort during the holidays. Whether it’s lighting a candle for a deceased loved one or creating new family rituals after a separation, involving kids in these decisions can help them navigate evolving traditions with a sense of continuity and hope.
4. Go with the flow
Not everything will go as planned during the holidays, and that’s okay. Teaching children resilience by modeling calm and flexible responses to setbacks can help them cope with disappointment and change. Emphasizing that challenges are a normal part of life can empower kids to navigate difficult situations with grace.
5. Set boundaries on conversations
While family gatherings can be a time for reconnecting, it’s important to steer conversations away from topics that may be distressing for children. Setting boundaries and focusing on positive memories or gratitude can create a supportive and safe environment for kids during social interactions.
6. Provide structure with choice
Offering children a balance of structure and autonomy can help them feel secure and engaged during the holidays. Simple activities and opportunities for choice, such as picking a game or helping with decorations, can make the season more enjoyable for kids while reducing stress for everyone.
7. Manage sensory overload
The holiday environment can be overwhelming for some children, with its bright lights and crowded spaces. Recognizing when a child needs a break and creating a quiet space for them to decompress can prevent emotional meltdowns and promote self-care. By prioritizing emotional well-being and flexibility, families can create moments of connection and love during the holiday season.
Dr. Jillian Roberts, a research professor of educational psychology at the University of Victoria and a practicing psychologist, specializes in child and adolescent development, family therapy, and inclusive education. Her insights on supporting children’s emotional well-being during the holidays offer valuable guidance for families navigating challenging times.
