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Ten ways to help your child be happy in the year ahead. This article provides insights and advice from an experienced child psychologist on how to foster happiness and emotional well-being in children. It is important to note that the advice given here is not a replacement for professional psychological or medical consultation.
1. Spend time with them
Children flourish when they feel seen, valued and loved. Make a habit of spending quality time with your child. This could be through sharing a meal, walking the dog, or just having a chat before bedtime. Showing a genuine interest in your child’s day-to-day activities sends a powerful message that they matter to you.
2. Hear them
Children often express themselves through different ways like stories, drawings or the tone of their voice. Pay attention to these subtle cues, listen to them, and validate their feelings. This helps them feel that their emotions are important, and it encourages open communication.
3. Give them choice
Allow your children to make decisions that are suitable for their age. This could be as simple as choosing their outfit for the day or deciding the route for a family walk. These moments can help boost their confidence and make them feel respected and capable.
4. Encourage friendships and connections
Support your child in developing and maintaining friendships. Positive relationships are a key predictor of lifelong happiness. This may require patience and guidance, especially for shy children or older children navigating complex peer relationships.
5. Allow free play and independence
Children need time for unstructured play and exploration. This fosters creativity, problem-solving skills, and emotional regulation. Encourage your child to play freely and independently, without the need for constant structured activities.
6. Support their passions and interests
Show interest in your child’s hobbies, even if they differ from your own. This support and encouragement can help your child in self-discovery and confidence building.
7. Keep conflict and stress away from them
Children are sensitive to their environment. Adult worries and conflicts can cause anxiety in children. Shield them from unnecessary tension to provide a safe and secure atmosphere for their growth.
8. Cultivate kindness – toward self and others
Teach your children to be kind to themselves and to others. Help them understand that everyone makes mistakes and it’s okay. Encourage them to treat themselves and others with kindness and empathy.
9. Maintain routines and healthy boundaries – especially around screens
Keep a structure in your child’s daily routine. This provides predictability and safety. Establish clear rules about screen time to ensure their mental health and well-being. Consistent boundaries help children feel secure and learn to regulate their own time and emotions.
10. Help them find a sense of meaning
Encourage your child to find what makes them feel alive and fulfilled. This could be through helping others, caring for the environment, or expressing themselves creatively. A sense of purpose can provide a solid foundation for lasting happiness.
Remember, happiness isn’t something we can give to children. It’s something we help them build within themselves. When children feel loved, capable, and connected, they not only become happier but also more compassionate, curious, and resilient.
Want to ask a child psychologist?
If you have questions about your child’s emotional and mental well-being, feel free to ask. This forum does not replace professional medical advice but can provide general guidance on supporting your child’s mental health.
Dr. Jillian Roberts is a research professor of educational psychology at the University of Victoria. She is also a practising registered psychologist in British Columbia, Alberta, Yukon and the Northwest Territories, specializing in child and adolescent development, family therapy and inclusive education.
