As societal norms continue to evolve, an increasing number of young women are embracing singlehood. They are no longer shackled by the stigma of being ‘spinsters’, but are instead carving out their own identities and enjoying their autonomy. But the question arises, “Why are more and more young women pro-single?” The shift could be attributed to a variety of factors, including increased financial independence, stronger social networks, persistent gender inequities, and the tribulations of the modern dating landscape.
The Rise of Singlehood Among Young Women
Once considered a pitiful state, singlehood is now increasingly seen as a status to strive for. In recent years, there have been numerous pop culture moments and online discourse championing the merits of being single. For instance, singer Chappell Roan has professed being “pro-single,” despite being in a relationship. Similarly, the “boysober” trend on social media saw women choosing self-improvement over dating. In fact, the latest data from Statscan reveals that in 2022, approximately 15.5 million people in Canada reported being single, with 15 percent of adults in private households living alone, the highest share ever recorded.
Women’s Satisfaction with Singlehood
Studies suggest that women are not just embracing singlehood, but are also genuinely satisfied with their single status. A study from the University of Toronto in 2024 found that compared to men, women were happier being single, with greater satisfaction pertaining to their lives and their sex lives, and desired a partner less. Women’s financial independence and robust social networks, which make singlehood less lonely for them, were cited as key reasons for this satisfaction. Conversely, men typically rely on their romantic partners for emotional support, which may make singlehood more challenging for them.
Gender Inequities in Heterosexual Relationships
Gender imbalances in heterosexual relationships are another factor that could be driving women towards singlehood. Studies indicate that women often bear a disproportionate share of housework, chores, and childcare responsibilities, even while managing full-time jobs. The inequities also extend to the bedroom, with women’s sexual pleasure frequently overlooked. These factors could make singlehood a more attractive option for women seeking autonomy and freedom.
The Impact of Dating App Culture
Experiences on dating apps may also be contributing to women’s preference for singlehood. Research reveals that young women are more susceptible to unwanted behaviours on dating apps, including receiving unsolicited explicit content, being contacted after expressing disinterest, being subjected to offensive comments, and even physical threat. Such experiences can make the dating landscape seem hostile and unwelcoming, reinforcing the appeal of singlehood.
Personal Experiences
For Bianca Mercadante, a 29-year-old from Montreal who has been single since she was 21, singlehood has been a fulfilling and empowering journey. It has allowed her to nurture her friendships, pursue her education, travel, and focus on her hobbies, such as marathon running. Eden Stilman, a 28-year-old from Toronto, shares a similar sentiment, stating that being single has boosted her confidence and allowed her to find happiness within herself.
Both Mercadante and Stilman are open to romantic connections, but they refuse to settle for less. For many young women, finding a partner with similar political beliefs is a non-negotiable aspect of a relationship. As Mercadante puts it, “If it’s not better than my own company, I don’t want it.”
In conclusion, the growing pro-single stance among young women can be attributed to a variety of factors, including increased opportunities, persistent gender inequities, and the challenges of modern dating. By choosing singlehood, these women are celebrating their autonomy and redefining societal norms.
